Sabotage comes from the word SABOT that means...
"wooden shoe" that makes noise .... walk noisily! Sabotaging someone often means spreading rumors!
Surprisingly, HEALTHY conflict is ...
good for a relationships! Healthy conflict means you say, "I feel..." or "Explain why ..." It means you are honest and listen!
Betrayal means....
to deceive or lie....
Healthy relationships apply to ...
friends, dating, teachers & students, all family members, and strangers!
Asking for help is ...
not getting the other person in trouble, it IS getting you and the other person HELP! Relationships are hard work! People often need help!
A relationships should always be ...
FUN! If it is NOT FUN, you have to address the red flags!
If someone wants you all to themselves - ISOLATED ...
This is a red flag! Even in a relationships, you need INDEPENDENCE!
When someone displays RED FLAGS, you should ...
Name the red flag (This feels ____.) Be honest, set boundaries, communicate honestly, ask for respect & equality.
Relationships - all of them - should be filled with ...
GREEN FLAGS! Moments that are kind, respectful, honest, fun! If not, you need to address it and/or ask for help!
Jealousy is the opposite of
TRUST!
Instead of someone belittling you (making you feel little) ...
find someone who treats you like an EQUAL!
RE-SPECT means to
see again and again. WE want to be in reationships where we are SEEN!
When we ask for consent...
YES means YES - everything else means NO!
Green Flag or Red Flag: You friend says, "My feelings are hurt; I'd like to talk about what happened."
Green Flag: They are asking for honesty, equality, and bit of healthy conflict
Green flag or Red flag: You friend gets mad when you go to another friend's house.
Red Flag: isolation, guilt and blame (The goal is honesty, independence, kindness, and celebration)
Red or Green Flag: Someone is happy one minute and sad the next and mad the next ...
RED: This feels a little volatile. Everyone feels a lot of feelings, and our goal is emotional regulation!
Boundaries that are respected (seen and seen again) are ...
essential in a relationship! No means no! Communicate your boundaries!
Instead of manipulation and control....
we want HONESTY!
ISOLATION means...
to set or place APART, to DETATCH, to make ALONE....
If someone is moving too fast, calling too much, texting all the time, the relationship is TOO...
INTENSE! Request a more COMFORTABLE PACE!
Is "I guess" consent?
No, it's not yes! You can ask, "You don't seem excited. What's going on?"
People who are volatile leave us feeling like...
we live on a rollercoaster!