People who are volatile leave us feeling like...
we live on a rollercoaster!
Green Flag or Red Flag: You friend says, "My feelings are hurt; I'd like to talk about what happened."
Green Flag: They are asking for honesty, equality, and bit of healthy conflict
Red or Green Flag: Someone is happy one minute and sad the next and mad the next ...
RED: This feels a little volatile. Everyone feels a lot of feelings, and our goal is emotional regulation!
When someone displays RED FLAGS, you should ...
Name the red flag (This feels ____.) Be honest, set boundaries, communicate honestly, ask for respect & equality.
RE-SPECT means to
see again and again. WE want to be in reationships where we are SEEN!
If someone wants you all to themselves - ISOLATED ...
This is a red flag! Even in a relationships, you need INDEPENDENCE!
ISOLATION means...
to set or place APART, to DETATCH, to make ALONE....
Asking for help is ...
not getting the other person in trouble, it IS getting you and the other person HELP! Relationships are hard work! People often need help!
Is "I guess" consent?
No, it's not yes! You can ask, "You don't seem excited. What's going on?"
If someone is moving too fast, calling too much, texting all the time, the relationship is TOO...
INTENSE! Request a more COMFORTABLE PACE!
Sabotage comes from the word SABOT that means...
"wooden shoe" that makes noise .... walk noisily! Sabotaging someone often means spreading rumors!
Jealousy is the opposite of
TRUST!
Healthy relationships apply to ...
friends, dating, teachers & students, all family members, and strangers!
Surprisingly, HEALTHY conflict is ...
good for a relationships! Healthy conflict means you say, "I feel..." or "Explain why ..." It means you are honest and listen!
Boundaries that are respected (seen and seen again) are ...
essential in a relationship! No means no! Communicate your boundaries!
Green flag or Red flag: You friend gets mad when you go to another friend's house.
Red Flag: isolation, guilt and blame (The goal is honesty, independence, kindness, and celebration)
Betrayal means....
to deceive or lie....
When we ask for consent...
YES means YES - everything else means NO!
Instead of someone belittling you (making you feel little) ...
find someone who treats you like an EQUAL!
A relationships should always be ...
FUN! If it is NOT FUN, you have to address the red flags!
Relationships - all of them - should be filled with ...
GREEN FLAGS! Moments that are kind, respectful, honest, fun! If not, you need to address it and/or ask for help!
Instead of manipulation and control....
we want HONESTY!