A new friend of yours brings up his arguments with his girlfriend a lot. You don't feel comfortable commenting on other people's relationships. What can you say to politely assert your boundary?
EX: I'm drawing the line at getting involved in your relationship. I hope it works out, but I won't discuss this with you.
A relative at a family party is asking you very personal questions. What can you say to assert your boundary politely?
EX: I've decided not to discuss that topic.
Boundaries should be based on your ______, or the things that are important to you.
Values
A family friend comes over to say hi and asks for a hug. You don't want to hug them, but they are insisting. How can you politely respond and assert your boundary?
EX: No thanks, I don't want a hug. Could I shake your hand instead?
Which of these examples shows confident body language: facing the other person or turning in the opposite direction?
Facing the other person
What are the two types of boundaries we discussed?
Physical and non-physical
True or false: everyone has the same boundaries.
False
True or false: when setting boundaries, it is okay to make your voice heard by yelling at the other person. You should always yell.
False
Your coworker is loudly playing a song you really don't like in the break room. How can you politely assert your boundary?
EX: Could you please put on headphones? I'd like some quiet on my break, please.
__________ is a helpful way to set boundaries; listen and consider the other person's needs.
Compromise
When setting boundaries, it can be helpful to use _________ body language.
Confident
You are at work, and your coworker is standing very close to you. When you move away, they move back towards you. What can you say to assert your boundary politely?
EX: I'm uncomfortable with how close you are right now. Could I have some space, please?
While you are at work, a customer asks what time you are off work. You know it's not safe to give out this information to strangers. What can you say to politely assert your boundary?
EX: No thanks, I don't want to give out that information.
Give an example of a phrase you can use to politely set boundaries.
"I'm uncomfortable", "please don't do that", "I can't do that", "I don't want to do that", "this doesn't work for me", "no thanks", etc
True or false: the silent treatment is usually not helpful or mature when setting boundaries.
True
In order to successfully set boundaries, you should ____ what you want to say.
Plan
__________ are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships.
Boundaries
True or false: a person with healthy boundaries can't say "no" to others.
False
True or false: when you set boundaries, you should put the other person down to make sure they never do it again. Say things like "you're a terrible person for doing that".
False
It is very important to be __________ when setting boundaries.
Respectful
While you're at a job interview, the interviewer offers to shake your hand. You were sick recently and don't feel comfortable touching them. What can you say to politely assert your boundary?
EX: I don't feel comfortable shaking hands right now.
Your sibling asks you to lend them $50 for something they want to buy. Despite them promising to pay you back, they've forgotten to do so in the past. How can you politely assert your boundary?
EX: I can't do that for you, sorry.