If you don’t look perfect, you must be disgusting to look at
Setting the Bar Too High
A teenage boy thinks his mother is angry at him because she walks into the house and doesn’t say hello to him straight away.
Mind Reading
I’m not going to make the team.
Mind Reading
My world is over if I can't play Minecraft with my friends.
Blowing Things Up
It's my fault she's angry.
Self-blaming
I'm such a loser.
Negative Labeling
A girl hears a group of friends laughing at the back of the classroom and instantly assumes they are laughing at her.
Mind Reading
I should do well; if I don’t, I’m a failure
Should Statements
Either you’re successful and high achieving, or you’re stupid and lazy
Setting the Bar Too High
If you do something wrong, then you can’t do anything right
Setting the Bar Too High
Those successes were easy so they don’t matter.
Ignoring the Good
The team lost because of me.
Self-blaming
If I talk, I will mess up and not say what I mean.
Fortune Telling
I scored 2 goals in soccer but I can't stop thinking about how no one cheered.
Ignoring the Good
He’s horrible.
Negative Labeling
I feel like she doesn't like me, so she doesn't like me.
Feelings as Facts
If I go, people will make fun of me.
Fortune Telling
A teenager waves to friend on the other side of the street and gets no response. Her conclusion – her friend hates her and wants nothing to do with her.
Mind Reading
If I make a bad grade then I will never get into a good college.
Blowing Things Up
I feel anxious, therefore I must be in danger.
Feelings as Facts
If my boyfriend leaves me, I will never find true love anywhere else, and I will be alone forever
Blowing Things Up
If I don’t check my social media soon, then I will miss out on the biggest thing to happen this century, and I won’t be able to talk to anyone!
Blowing Things Up
Mum should always let me watch TV.
Should Statements
Someone hears a peer say something rude about them and now thinks that everyone at their school dislikes them and they have no real friends
Blowing Things Up
It’s review time at your school, and your teacher compliments your hard work several times. In the end, they make one improvement suggestion. You leave the meeting feeling miserable and dwell on that one suggestion all day long
Ignoring the Good
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