Your classmate took and used your calculator without asking. Instead of accusing them of stealing or yelling at them, use an "i-message" to say how you feel
I feel upset when I found out you took my calculator without asking, please ask me next time."
Your brother went in your room without asking and made a mess. You feel really angry. Tell your brother how you feel and what you would like to happen now.
I feel _________ when ________. I would like ___________.
What is something a person can do to calm down first before addressing a problem when they are angry? Act it out
Lemon squeezes, deep breaths
Sketch an angry face on the white board
Show me
Draw something that can trigger you to feel angry sometimes
Draw it on the white board
What is a peaceful or happy place you could visualize when you feel angry?
example - your house
Rank in order what gets you the most angry
1. being teased 2. feelings left out 3. physical pain 4. being told no 5. unfairness 6. being disrespected
One way to feel calmer when you get angry is breathe slowly. This can help to slow your heart rate and sends a message to your brain that everything will be ok. Practice taking 5 slow deep breaths
Take 5 slow deep breaths
Choose three of the coping tools listed to act out in silence and see if we can guess.
1.) Count to 20 2.) Exercise 3.) LIsten to music 4.) Take slow deep breaths 5.) Imagine a peaceful place 6.) Send an i-message 7.) ask for help 8.) stretch
True or false: Some clues that might mean a person is angry: 1.) Tight fists 2.) Increased heart rate 3.) Headache/stomach ache 4.) Thinking shuts down 5.) clenched jaw 6.) feeling hot in the face/neck
True
True or false: There is a difference between feeling angry and reacting in anger towards someone
True
True or false: You will have a much better chance of getting what you want by using your fists and force than by using your words
False
True or false: Other people have control over whether you react in anger
False
Where in your body do you usually feel the sensation of anger?
Point to it
Imagine if anger was a color, what color would it be? What shape would it be? What temperature would it be?
Tell me your answer
Imagine if the teacher wrote your name on the board for disrupting and you felt embarassed and angry. What positive thought could you tell yourself to calm down?
It's ok everyone else gets their name on the board sometimes
