If we shift the topic at the wrong time, it confuses others (“crashes” the wave of conversation).
How do you tune in?
Notice: what's happening now, your actions, and how your actions make others feel.
Brody and Frank are talking about their math test. “I’m so nervous!” Frank tells Brody. Brody says, “I’m not. I’m really good at math.” Frank says, “Oh okay...” and looks away. Is Brody tuned in?
Nope!
What are two ways to shift a topic?
Use a transition comment or question.
What is perspective taking?
"Putting yourself in someone else's shoes" or imagining how another person thinks and feels.
Justin is talking to Shelby about homework. Justin notices that Shelby opens her mouth like she is about to say something, so he gives her a chance to speak. Did Justin use the conversation stoplight?
Yes!
Jasmine is telling Bianca about her weekend when Bianca remembers something really funny that happened to her last night. Bianca starts talking over Jasmine. Did Bianca use the conversation stoplight?
Nope!
Explain the conversation stoplight: what do red and green mean?
Red: waiting for our turn to talk. Green: taking our turn to talk when there is a pause or someone asks us a question.
What is topic shifting?
When you bring up something new to talk about during a conversation.
How do we show someone we're listening?
Turn toward them, nod, ask questions or add comments ("cool!") when there is a pause.
Brad and Kelly are talking about something funny Kelly's dog did last night. Kelly and Brad stop laughing and there is a pause. Brad says, "speaking of dogs, I volunteered at the shelter on Thursday." Did Brad shift the topic appropriately?
Yes! That was a great transition.
What are expected and unexpected behaviors?
What normally happens in a given place (home, school, etc) vs. what is surprising, distracting, or rude.
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