Replace the trigger words: "I know!"
"Yeah, that makes sense."; "Right."; "Got it."; "Okay."
"I don't get this."
Practice versions: respectful + calm, annoyed, whiny, confident and mature
Before speaking, what are some questions to ask yourself to ensure tone matches the goal?
What is my goal? Does my tone match that goal? Does my body langauge match that goal?
You text "Sorry, I can't come." Friend responds, "Fine."
Practice versions: "That's okay." "No worries!", "Oh....okay..."
"Seriously?"
Practice versions: playful, supportive, judgmental
"Sure!"
Practice versions: happy, annoyed, sarcastic, hurt, excited
Repace this trigger word: "Whatever."
"Okay"; "That's fine."; "I don't mind.", "It's up to you."
Replace the trigger words: "Calm down!"
"Let's slow down."; "Wer're okay"; "I want to understand."; "Let's figure this out."
"That's not what I meant."
Practice versions: kind, annoyed, defensive, dismissive
"Wow. That's.....interesting."
Practice versions: genuine curiosity, sarcasm, bored, excited
Replace the trigger words: "You're annoying."
"That's bothering me."; "I need a break."; "Can we change the topic?"; "I'm getting frustrated."
"Why would you do that?"
Practice versions: curious, shocked, sarcastic
Replace the trigger words: "Leave me alone."
"I need a minute.", "Can I have some space?"; "I'll come back in a few minutes."
Replace the target words: "That's stupid!"
"I don't understand that."; "That doesn't make sense to me."; "Can you explain?"; "I see it differently."
Parent: "Did you finish your school work?"
Practice versions for "yes": respectful, annoyed, defensive
What are some ways to "repair" a rude tone?
Softer pitch, slower speed, warmer facial expression, different word choice
"I'm fine."
Practice versions: calm, slightly upset, very upset
Peer: "You did it wrong."
Practice various responses such as "Whatever."; "Can we look at it together?"; "I thought it was supposed to be this way."
Replace the trigger words: "That's not fair."
"That feels unfair."; "Can we talk about that?"; "I'm confused about that."; "Can you explain why?"
Volume awareness while saying "Stop."
Practice versions: whisper, normal voice, loud, playful, angry