Can I be friends with my paid helper?
No, because I only see them when they are working (but I can still enjoy our time!).
Where do I see my paid helpers?
At their job (school, clinic, on field trips, etc.)
When do I see my paid helpers?
During their working hours
My doctor wants to do something that I do not want to do. What can I do next?
Ask for more details. Ask if there is a way to make it less scary or painful for me. Ask a trusted adult to help me decide if it is necessary.
What types of touch are UNEXPECTED with my paid helper?
Anything romantic - long hugs, kiss, massage, cuddle, sitting in lap
What types of touch are expected with my teacher?
Could include high five, fist bump, elbow bump, short hugs, hand-over-hand help with certain activities (if needed)
If I have a crush on my paid helper, who can I tell?
Crushes on paid helpers might happen! You can tell a trusted friend or family member. You might also want to keep it private.
What types of touch are expected with my doctor?
It depends on the type of appointment and type of doctor (brainstorm some ideas!)
Can I date any of my paid helpers?
No, part of their job is they cannot date their clients or students.
Who are my paid helpers?
People whose job it is to help me (my teacher, my therapist, my doctor, my hair dresser, my dentist, etc.)
What are EXPECTED compliments to give to my paid helper?
Compliment their actions (You are good at _____) or their personality (You are ______).
How do I contact my paid helpers?
Talk to them when they are at work, send an email, call them at their work number if needed
What is an UNEXPECTED way to contact my paid helpers?
Text, calling their cell phone, messaging them on social media, visiting them outside of work hours/their workplace
What is an UNEXPECTED compliment to give my paid helper?
Complimenting their appearance or trying to flirt
What should I do if I really like my paid helper?
Compliment their actions ("You are a great helper!")
Text them on their cell phone
Ask them on a date
Visit them at home
Can I marry my paid helper?
No, but I can look at the qualities I like in my paid helper. That might help me find another person around my age I want to date then marry..
Can I tell people I am dating my paid helper, even if it is not true?
No, this will make my paid helper uncomfortable. Others might start thinking I am a liar.