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Scenario: For holidays, Mary plans and buys gifts, decorates the house, and organizes family gatherings. Her husband, Tom, enjoys the festivities but doesn’t help with the preparations.

Impact: Mary feels overwhelmed with the holiday preparations and wishes Tom would share the responsibility and effort.

They have a dedicated drawer for their collection of toenail clippings.

red flag

Jordan always helps Chris with errands but makes passive-aggressive comments when Chris spends time with friends. “I guess I’m only good for helping you move, huh?”

Red Flag

Your date brings up their ex-partner frequently, indicating unresolved feelings.

Orange Flag

Your date frequently asks about your job, salary, and financial assets, showing little interest in your personality.

Red flag

Your date openly talks about their past, their goals, and their life without hesitation.

Green Flag

Whenever Sam mentions his female friend, Karen, his girlfriend, Laura, starts comparing herself to Karen and asking if he finds Karen more attractive.

red flag

Your date has a fulfilling life with hobbies, friends, and career goals, and encourages you to have your own.

Green Flag

They have a secret talent for making balloon animals.

green flag

Whenever Sam talks to a classmate after school, Alex sends a flurry of texts asking who they are and what they’re talking about.

Red Flag

Your date shows genuine care for your feelings and needs.

Green Flag

Megan feels overwhelmed because she is responsible for all the holiday planning, gift buying, and organizing family gatherings.

she needs help!

They surprise you with your favorite candy every Friday.

Scenario: During a discussion about setting boundaries, Jordan rolls their eyes and sighs heavily, saying, "Do we really have to talk about this again?"

red flag

“You’re pretty smart for a girl.”

Red Flag

Alex helps Jamie with homework and then becomes upset when Jamie doesn’t want to go on a date. “I spent hours helping you, and you can’t even give me one evening?”

Red Flag

Sam insists that Pat shares their phone passwords and social media logins, framing it as a way to build trust. “If you have nothing to hide, why can’t I see your messages?”

Red Flag

Scenario (Woman): Katie frequently plays the victim when she doesn’t get her way, telling her boyfriend, Alex, that he doesn’t care about her feelings and makes her cry on purpose.

red flag

They believe socks should be worn with sandals at all times, no exceptions.

orange flag

Every time Sarah brings up her love for cats, Tom visibly shudders and starts talking about how amazing dogs are and how cats are plotting world domination.

orange flag

Scenario (Man): Mark often uses guilt to control his girlfriend, Emily, saying things like, "If you loved me, you would do this for me," or "I guess I’m just not important enough to you."

red flag

Chris tells his girlfriend, Megan, that he has a work event to attend. Megan insists on coming along, even though it’s a professional setting where she doesn’t know anyone.

red flag

Whenever Casey tries to discuss important matters, Taylor either interrupts or dismisses their points without listening.

Red Flag

Your partner talks through issues calmly and respectfully, seeking solutions together.

Green Flags

Scenario (Woman): Sophie often implies that if her boyfriend, Jake, doesn’t change his behavior, she might find someone else who appreciates her more, saying things like, "Others wouldn’t treat me like this."

red flag

During conversations, Taylor always redirects the focus back to their achievements and needs constant praise.

Red Flag

Every time Ben makes plans to hang out with his friends, his girlfriend, Lisa, makes negative comments about them and schedules something for the same time to keep him from going.

red flag

Scenario (Woman): Rachel insists on knowing her boyfriend, Steve's, whereabouts at all times. She frequently calls and texts him, demanding immediate responses.

red flag

Your partner uses guilt trips to get you to do things you’re uncomfortable with.

Red Flags

“It’s cute how proud you are of that little accomplishment.”

Red Flag

Scenario (Man): John always dismisses his wife, Mary’s, ideas and opinions by saying, "You don’t really understand how these things work," or "Let’s leave this to someone who knows better."

red flag

They carry a pet rock everywhere and refer to it as their “best friend.”

orange flag

“You’d look great if you lost a few pounds.”

Red Flag

Your partner expresses love in ways that are meaningful to you, whether through words, actions, or touch.

Green Flags

Your date’s actions consistently match their words; they follow through on promises.

Green Flag

John helps Emily with making dinner, assists the kids with their homework, and prepares for the next day alongside her.

green flag

Sam convinces Alex to skip family gatherings and avoid old friends, saying they should only need each other.

Red Flag

Your date often cancels plans last minute without a good reason.

Orange Flag

During conversations, Chris finds that Pat often cuts in, not letting them finish their thoughts.

Red Flag

Scenario (Woman): Megan frequently belittles her boyfriend, Paul’s, achievements by saying things like, "I guess that’s good, considering your limited experience."

red flag

Scenario: Morgan encourages Avery to drink more than they’re comfortable with during a night out, hoping Avery will be more amenable to sexual activities once they're intoxicated.

red flag

Whenever Casey wants to go out with friends, Taylor insists on knowing exactly where they’ll be and who they’re with, making them feel guilty for wanting time apart.

Red Flag

Sam listens to Taylor vent about their problems but then gets upset when Taylor doesn’t want to date. “After all I’ve done for you, this is how you repay me?”

Red Flag

Your date’s stories about their job seem to change slightly each time.

Orange Flag

“You’re adorable when you try to act smart.”

red flag

Your partner constantly accuses you of cheating despite your reassurances.

Red Flags

Maria always plans the family vacations, including booking flights, accommodations, and activities, while her husband, John, just shows up and enjoys the trip.

red flag

Your partner wants to contribute to your happiness and well-being.

Green Flags

Mark expects his wife, Emma, to handle all the bedtime routines for their kids, including reading stories, brushing teeth, and tucking them in.

why? doesn't he want to spend time with his kids?

Your date avoids answering questions about their family or past.

Orange Flag

During every movie, Sam provides a running commentary, explaining the plot and predicting the ending, much to Anna’s frustration.

red flag

Your date tells you they love hiking, but when you plan a hike, they make excuses to avoid it.

Red flag

They insist on talking like a pirate every time they go out to dinner.

red flag

Sarah and Mike sit down together once a week to review the family calendar and share reminders about upcoming events and appointments.

green flag

Tom asks his wife, Jane, where his clean socks are, despite her repeatedly telling him where they are kept. He does this regularly for various items.

Would he do that at work?

Taylor insists on deciding what Pat wears, eats, and how they spend their free time, framing it as caring. “I just want what’s best for you. Trust me, this is better.”

Red Flag

Your date tells you they are single, but you later find out they have an active dating profile.

Red flag

Your date often compares you to their friends’ partners, making you feel judged.

Orange Flag

Alex consistently downplays or denies things that Taylor knows happened, making them doubt their own perceptions. “You’re being paranoid. That never happened.”

Red Flag

Chris cries or has emotional outbursts whenever Pat wants to do something independently, making Pat feel guilty for their own needs. “I just feel so alone when you’re not around.”

Red Flag

Your partner regularly criticizes your appearance, job, or hobbies.

Red Flags

Just as they’re about to save up for a vacation, Lisa suddenly tells her boyfriend, Ben, that she needs a large sum of money for an unexpected expense, without giving much detail.

red flag

Scenario (Man): Alex frequently makes decisions for his girlfriend, Sarah, without consulting her, such as where they should live, what car they should buy, and even her career choices.

red flag

Scenario: Every time they hang out, Jordan keeps asking Casey if they're ready to take things to the next level, despite Casey's repeated answers of "not yet."

red flag

Scenario: Taylor keeps making suggestive comments and touching Kelly in ways that Kelly has previously said make them uncomfortable, saying, "Just seeing if you changed your mind."

red flag

Morgan persuades Chris to open a joint bank account and then monitors their spending closely, questioning every purchase. “We need to be more careful with our money. Why did you buy this?”

Red Flag

Your partner encourages you to pursue further education or career opportunities.

Green Flags

Rachel often decides what her boyfriend, Steve, should do with his free time, such as which hobbies to pursue, what books to read, and who to spend time with.

red flag

Jamie frequently denies or changes details about past events to make Casey question their memory and reality. “That’s not how it happened. You’re remembering it wrong.”

Red Flag

After dating for only a few months, Emma pressures her boyfriend, John, to open a joint bank account with her, despite his hesitations about their financial compatibility.

red flag

Scenario: Avery asks Morgan to use a condom, but Morgan says, "It doesn't feel as good with one. Trust me, it'll be fine," and tries to proceed without it.

red flag

Megan and Sam plan holiday responsibilities together, sharing tasks such as gift buying, organizing gatherings, and planning activities.

green flag

Pat realizes that Taylor doesn’t have any friends from more than a year ago and never talks about maintaining relationships.

Red Flag

You discover you both have similar views on family, career goals, and life aspirations.

Green Flag

When it comes to the kids' school projects, extracurricular activities, or doctor’s appointments, Maria handles all the planning and coordination. Her husband, Jake, simply attends when told.

Impact: Maria is exhausted from juggling all aspects of their children’s lives, while Jake doesn’t participate in the planning or organizing.

“I’m surprised you know about that, most people in your field don’t.”

Red Flag

Emma notices that the laundry is piling up and asks her husband, John, to do it. John responds, "Just remind me later," which leaves Emma with the task of remembering and ensuring it gets done.

Impact: Emma feels burdened with having to keep track of chores and follow up, while John expects to be reminded instead of taking initiative.

“You’re funny for someone who doesn’t usually get jokes.”

Red Flag

Sam frequently questions Alex’s loyalty, insisting on proof of their whereabouts and doubting their stories.

Red Flag

Jenny and Paul work together on the household budget and bill payments, with Paul taking on some of the financial planning responsibilities.

green flag

Katie has every minute of their weekend planned out three months in advance, complete with color-coded itineraries and backup plans for rain.

red flag

“You did well, considering how inexperienced you are.”

Red Flag

Scenario: Whenever it’s time for health check-ups or dental appointments, Emma is the one who schedules them for the whole family, including herself and her husband, John.

Impact: Emma feels the stress of managing everyone’s health appointments, while John doesn’t contribute to scheduling or keeping track of them.

Scenario (Man): Ryan always finds reasons for his girlfriend, Emma, to skip family gatherings and events with friends, claiming they don’t value her or are a bad influence.

red flag

Whenever Pat talks about future plans or goals, Casey seems uninterested and never shares any ambitions of their own.

Red Flag

After just a few dates, Alex insists on moving in together, saying they know they’re meant to be, despite Erin’s hesitation.

Red Flag

Scenario: During an intimate moment, Jordan notices Casey tensing up and pulling away but continues, thinking Casey will relax and enjoy it eventually.

red flag

Tom always asks his wife, Lisa, what's for dinner, and she is responsible for planning meals, shopping for groceries, and cooking. Tom occasionally helps with cooking but never plans or shops.

Impact: Lisa feels the constant pressure of meal planning and ensuring the family is fed, while Tom doesn’t contribute to the mental load of deciding meals.

“Wow, I didn’t expect you to pull that off.”

red flag

Whenever a plan falls through or an argument happens, Pat always blames external factors or other people, never acknowledging any personal fault.

Red Flag

Taylor constantly talks about how terrible their exes were, never mentioning any personal faults or mistakes.

Red Flag

Mark only eats chicken nuggets and French fries, refusing to try any other foods. He also insists that their future children will follow the same diet.

red flag

Your date encourages you to pursue a new job opportunity even if it means less time together.

Green Flag

Your partner trusts you completely and does not feel the need to check up on you constantly.

Green Flags

“Are you sure you can handle that? It’s pretty complex.”

Red Flag

During a dinner date, Jamie is rude to the waiter, complaining loudly and snapping fingers to get attention.

Red Flag

“You’re not as annoying as my ex.”

Red Flag

Scenario: During sex, Morgan secretly removes the condom without Avery's knowledge or consent, thinking Avery won't notice and won't mind afterward.

red flag

Emma insists on knowing exactly where her boyfriend, Mark, is at all times and becomes upset if he doesn’t immediately respond to her texts or calls.

red flag

Lisa takes care of all the household chores, meal planning, and grocery shopping while her husband, Sam, only takes out the trash occasionally.

hmmm.... Can't he do more?

Scenario (Man): Tom often makes backhanded compliments to his wife, Lisa, such as, "You look great for your age" or "You did well for someone with your background."

red flag

Taylor finds out that Chris has been lying about their job, claiming to be a manager when they’re actually unemployed.

Red Flag

At every social event, Morgan drinks excessively, often becoming the center of awkward or concerning incidents.

Red Flag

Whenever Alex gets money, they spend it immediately on luxuries, often borrowing from Jordan to cover essentials later.

Red Flag

Scenario (Woman): Lisa always decides how her boyfriend, John, should dress, what hobbies he should pursue, and how they should spend their weekends, rarely considering his interests.

red flag

While out at a party, Jane sees her boyfriend, Dave, talking to an old friend. She becomes jealous and accuses him of flirting, despite the conversation being completely innocent.

red flag

Scenario: Alex and Taylor are cuddling on the couch. Taylor says, "I'm not really in the mood tonight." Alex responds, "Come on, you always say that," and continues to try to initiate.

red flag

Scenario: Jamie frequently questions Casey’s decisions and opinions in a condescending way, making them doubt their own judgment. “Are you sure you want to wear that? It’s not really your color.”

Red Flag

Your date showers you with gifts and compliments excessively, making you feel uncomfortable with the intensity.

Red flag

Scenario (Woman): Alice regularly undermines her boyfriend, Tom’s, opinions by saying, "That’s not really important," or "You’re overthinking it."

red flag

“That dress would look better on someone taller.”

Red Flag

Rachel loves shopping and dining out at fancy restaurants. She frequently maxes out her credit cards and then asks her boyfriend, Alex, to help cover her bills.

red flag

Katie uses the fact that she earns more money than her boyfriend, Tom, to control their relationship, often threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t buy her what she wants.

red flag

Whenever something needs fixing around the house, like a leaky faucet or a broken appliance, Alex always has to remind their spouse, Taylor, several times before it gets done.

Impact: Alex feels responsible for noticing and remembering what needs to be fixed, while Taylor relies on being reminded and doesn’t take initiative.

Scenario (Man): Adam and Jane both work full-time jobs, but Adam insists on handling all the finances. He gives Jane a fixed amount of money each week and questions her about every purchase.

red flag

Your date treats everyone kindly, including service staff and strangers.

Green Flag

Scenario (Man): David regularly checks his girlfriend, Laura's, phone and social media accounts. He insists it's just to make sure she's safe but gets upset if she changes her passwords.

red flag

They make a playlist of songs that they think you would love.

green flag

John posts every detail of his and Mary’s relationship on social media, including the color of her socks and what they had for breakfast.

red flag

Jordan makes constant jokes at Pat’s expense, saying they’re just kidding when Pat gets upset. “Can’t you take a joke? You’re being too sensitive.”

Red Flag

Scenario: Jamie tells Sam, "If you really loved me, you'd do this for me," after Sam expresses discomfort with a certain sexual activity.

red flag

Whenever Pat tries to discuss their feelings or share a bad day, Morgan changes the subject or responds with a joke.

Red Flag

They only communicate via emojis and get upset if you use words.

red flag

Your date spends a lot of time complaining about all their exes and blaming them for everything that went wrong.

Red flag

Pat makes their affection conditional on Jordan’s behavior, withdrawing love and attention if Jordan doesn’t comply. “I’ll be more affectionate when you start behaving better.”

Red Flag

Scenario: Pat constantly makes lewd comments and jokes about Riley’s body, even in public or social situations, despite Riley’s repeated requests to stop.

red flag

Your partner relies on you to make all decisions and provide constant emotional support.

Red Flags

Despite having the ability to work, Rachel relies entirely on her boyfriend, Mike, for financial support, frequently asking him to cover her personal expenses.

re flag

Your date listens attentively and responds thoughtfully during conversations.

Green Flag

They’re always up for an impromptu dance party, even in the grocery store.

green flag

When Jordan wants to make plans with friends, Pat acts hurt and guilty, convincing Jordan to cancel and stay home.

Red Flag

Emily sends John a text message every five minutes, checking in on what he’s doing, how he’s feeling, and whether he’s thinking about her.

red flag

Chris is incredibly attentive and sweet one day but completely ignores messages and calls the next, leaving Jordan confused and hurt.

Red Flag

Scenario: After Riley refuses to engage in a sexual activity they're uncomfortable with, Pat becomes cold and distant, withholding affection until Riley relents.

red flag

“That’s an interesting outfit choice, very unique.”

red flag

They remember the names of all your childhood pets and ask about them regularly.

green flag

Sam notices that Alex still keeps many pictures and mementos from their ex and often brings them up in conversations.

Red Flag

Sarah refuses to discuss her financial situation with her boyfriend, Matt, and becomes defensive whenever he brings up the topic of budgeting or saving.

red flag

Your partner respects your opinions, even when they differ from theirs.

Green Flags

Taylor encourages Alex to spend less time with friends and family, suggesting that those relationships are unhealthy or toxic. “Your friends don’t understand us. They’re just jealous of what we have.”

Red Flag

Scenario: Jessica manages all the household bills, budgeting, and financial planning. Her husband, Mike, simply asks her if they have enough money for his purchases.

Impact: Jessica feels the weight of managing their finances alone and wishes Mike would take a more active role in their financial planning.

Whenever Alex makes a mistake, Sam points it out harshly, making them feel worse instead of offering support.

Red Flag

Whenever Matt tries to set a budget for their monthly expenses, Sarah disregards it completely, continuing to spend impulsively on non-essential items.

red flag

Taylor expects Sam to be available 24/7, getting upset if texts or calls aren’t answered immediately. “Why didn’t you respond? You know how much I need to hear from you.”

Red Flag

Scenario: Alex starts playing a graphic video without asking if Taylor is okay with it and insists, "It's normal for couples to watch this together."

red flag

Lisa and Sam divide household chores equally, with Sam taking on more responsibilities such as meal planning and grocery shopping.

green flag

Scenario: Ben never initiates plans with friends or family; it’s always his wife, Laura, who arranges social gatherings and keeps track of birthdays and anniversaries.

Impact: Laura feels the pressure of maintaining their social life and remembering important dates, while Ben relies on her to handle it all.

They have a knack for finding the perfect GIFs to match any conversation.

green flag

Scenario (Woman): Sarah manages all the household finances and only gives her husband, Mike, a small allowance. She often checks his spending and criticizes him for any purchases she deems unnecessary.

red flag

Tom takes the initiative to organize his belongings and remembers where things are kept, reducing the need to ask Jane constantly.

green flag

Mark takes turns with Emma handling bedtime routines, sometimes reading stories and tucking the kids in himself.

green flag

You discover your partner has been messaging someone else romantically.

Red Flags

They refuse to watch any movie that isn’t animated.

red flag

Pat frequently buys Morgan lunch and then expects Morgan to reciprocate with affection. “I’ve been so nice to you, the least you could do is give me a chance.”

Red Flag

Person B (Woman): Maria and John plan their family vacations together, discussing and booking flights, accommodations, and activities as a team.

green flag

“You’re not as awkward as you were before.”

red flag

Scenario (Woman): Karen frequently tells her boyfriend, Mike, that his family doesn’t really care about him and that he should spend more time with her instead.

red flag

Your partner shares household chores and responsibilities equally.

Green Flags

Your date makes provocative comments to see how you react.

Orange Flag

Laura has a history of unpaid debts and bad credit. She makes no effort to improve her financial situation and expects her boyfriend, Sam, to handle any financial issues that arise.

red flag

David relies on his wife, Laura, to remind him of their kids’ school projects, extracurricular activities, and doctor appointments.

Can't he share the calendar?

They insist on bringing their imaginary friend to every date.

red flag

Your date tries to get physically close despite your clear discomfort.

Red flag

They insist on singing every conversation to the tune of “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star.”

red flag

“Nice try, but maybe leave the cooking to someone more skilled.”

Red Flag

Scenario (Man): Eric frequently hints that if his girlfriend, Laura, doesn’t do things his way, he might leave her, saying things like, "I don’t know how much longer I can put up with this."

red flag

Scenario: After Jamie expresses feeling uncomfortable with certain jokes, Alex laughs and says, "You're being too sensitive; it's just a joke."

red flag

Alex constantly accuses Taylor of flirting or being interested in others, even in innocent situations. “I saw the way you looked at that waiter. Do you like him or something?”

Red Flag

After a minor disagreement, Morgan ignores Jamie for days, refusing to communicate until Jamie apologizes profusely.

Red Flag

On their second date, Jamie shows up with an expensive necklace and a card professing undying love, despite only knowing Taylor for a week.

Red Flag

Your partner discourages you from spending time with your friends and family.

Red Flags

Casey frequently talks about mutual friends behind their backs, always focusing on their flaws and mistakes.

Red Flag

Your partner looks out for your well-being but respects your independence.

Green Flags

Scenario: Taylor wakes up to find Alex initiating sex, despite having previously agreed that such advances are off-limits unless both are awake and consenting.

red flag

Scenario (Woman): Linda constantly tells her boyfriend, John, that his friends are immature and a bad influence. She regularly makes plans for them as a couple that exclude his friends.

red flag

Scenario: During an intimate moment, Morgan notices Avery is wincing. When Avery says, "That hurts," Morgan responds with, "You'll get used to it," and continues.

red flag

Scenario (Man): Chris frequently makes negative comments about his girlfriend, Emma’s, friends, subtly discouraging her from spending time with them. He often schedules activities that conflict with her plans with friends.

red flag

Your partner insults you during arguments and later apologizes, but the behavior continues.

Red Flags

Jamie often comments on how Pat could dress better or be more productive, pointing out flaws under the guise of “helpful advice.”

Red Flag

Jenny frequently asks her boyfriend, Mike, to reassure her of his love, especially after any interaction he has with other women, no matter how trivial.

red flag

Scenario: After a nice dinner out, Jordan says to Casey, "I spent a lot on tonight; it's only fair we go back to your place."

red flag

Person A (Man): John gets home from work and relaxes on the couch while his wife, Emily, makes dinner, helps the kids with homework, and prepares for the next day.

Why? Does she have a job outside the home too?

Alice is passionate about her collection of antique teapots and expects Jake to join her in her hobby, including attending teapot conventions and polishing the teapots weekly.

red flag

Whenever Alex mentions working late, his girlfriend, Rachel, accuses him of spending time with another woman, even though he's just finishing a project with his team.

red flag

You’re at a restaurant and your date is rude to the waiter, snapping fingers and making derogatory comments.

Red flag

Whenever Tom plans to meet his childhood friend, Emily, his girlfriend, Katie, discourages him and suggests he should focus more on their relationship instead.

red flag

Pat is very secretive about their financial situation and becomes defensive when Jamie asks about it.

Red Flag

Morgan makes veiled threats about what could happen if Chris leaves them or doesn’t comply with their wishes. “I don’t know what I’d do without you. I might do something crazy.”

Red Flag

“You remind me of my friend who’s also struggling with weight.”

red flag

Jordan repeatedly asks Taylor to stop going through their phone, but Taylor continues to do it, insisting it’s no big deal.

Red Flag

“I never would’ve guessed you’re good at sports.”

red flag

They refuse to acknowledge the existence of the color blue.

red flag

They always laugh at your terrible puns and even add their own.

green flag

Your date gets jealous and questions you about a casual conversation you had with a friend.

Red flag

Whenever there’s a disagreement about what to do on weekends, Morgan insists on their choice, dismissing Chris’s preferences.

Red Flag

Lisa refuses to eat anything that isn’t organic, gluten-free, and sugar-free. She also insists that Tom follows the same strict diet, even on cheat days.

red flag

Your date loses their temper quickly over a minor inconvenience, like traffic or a delayed order.

Red flag

Your partner consistently ignores your emotional needs, focusing only on their own.

Red Flags

They build the best blanket forts for movie nights.

green flag

Casey showers Jamie with gifts and affection but expects constant gratitude and reciprocation. “I bought you all these things; the least you can do is spend more time with me.”

Red Flag

They make sure your coffee cup is always filled with your favorite brew.

green flag

Kevin calls his mom every day to discuss everything from his breakfast choices to the movie he and Lisa watched last night, seeking her approval on all decisions.

red flag

Maria frequently checks her boyfriend, Tom’s, phone messages and social media accounts, claiming she just wants to make sure he isn’t hiding anything from her.

red flag

Every birthday and holiday, Lisa expects her boyfriend, Jim, to buy her expensive gifts. When he gets her something thoughtful but less costly, she becomes visibly disappointed.

red flag

Scenario: Pat tells Riley, "I thought you said you were adventurous. Guess I was wrong," after Riley hesitates to try something new.

red flag

Whenever there’s a family event, like a birthday party or a doctor's appointment, Sarah is always the one to remember and schedule it. Her husband, Mark, often says, “Just tell me where to be and when.”

Impact: Sarah is overwhelmed with coordinating the family's schedule and feels like Mark doesn’t take an active role in managing family logistics.

Your date makes you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with friends instead of them.

Red flag

Person B (Woman): Sarah is responsible for remembering all the family appointments, birthdays, and school events. Her husband, Mike, never checks the calendar and constantly forgets important dates.

Would his boss be ok with this?

Pat uses guilt to manipulate Jordan into staying home instead of going out with friends. “If you really loved me, you’d want to spend more time with me, not them.”

Red Flag

Your partner frequently denies events or conversations that took place, making you doubt your memory.

Red Flags

Your partner gets extremely jealous when you talk to colleagues of the opposite sex.

Red Flags

After only a few dates, your date demands to know where you are at all times and gets upset when you don’t respond immediately.

Red flag

Scenario: Jamie repeatedly pressures Sam to engage in sexual acts on camera, saying it’s just for their private use, despite Sam’s clear discomfort and initial refusal.

red flag

Your date starts talking about a future together very early on.

Orange Flag

Your partner shows care for your health and happiness.

Green Flags

Scenario (Man): Peter always insists on choosing the movies they watch, the restaurants they eat at, and the vacations they take, rarely considering his girlfriend, Jane's, preferences.

They send you funny memes that always make your day better.

green flag

“You’re so brave for wearing that.”

red flag

Whenever there’s an argument, Jordan shuts down completely, refusing to talk until the issue is dropped without resolution.

Red Flag

Scenario: Jamie threatens to end the relationship or start seeing other people if Sam doesn't comply with their sexual demands.

Mike insists that the moon landing was faked and spends hours trying to convince Emma to watch his collection of conspiracy theory documentaries.

red flag

John casually mentions a female coworker during dinner, and his girlfriend, Sarah, becomes visibly upset and starts questioning him about their relationship.

red flag

Your partner has her own interests and supports you in pursuing yours.

Green Flags

Over a few months, Jamie changes jobs several times, always having a new reason why the previous one wasn’t good enough.

Red Flag

Scenario: Jordan insists on acting out specific sexual fantasies that Casey is uncomfortable with, dismissing Casey's reluctance by saying, "It's just pretend; why are you being so uptight?"

red flag

Maria often borrows money from her boyfriend, Tom, promising to pay him back. However, she never follows through and continues to ask for more.

red flag

Jenny has to keep track of all the household bills, manage the budget, and ensure everything is paid on time while her husband, Paul, doesn’t contribute to financial planning.

red flag