What should I do if I really like my paid helper?
Compliment their actions ("You are a great helper!")
Visit them at home
Text them on their cell phone
Ask them on a date
What types of touch are expected with my dentist?
Touching my teeth and inside my mouth
What types of touch are UNEXPECTED with my paid helper?
Anything romantic - long hugs, kiss, massage, cuddle, sitting in lap
Can I marry my paid helper?
No, but I can look at the qualities I like in my paid helper. That might help me find another person around my age I want to date then marry..
Can I tell people I am dating my paid helper, even if it is not true?
No, this will make my paid helper uncomfortable. Others might start thinking I am a liar.
What is an UNEXPECTED compliment to give my paid helper?
Complimenting their appearance or trying to flirt
When do I see my paid helpers?
During their working hours
Can I be friends with my paid helper?
No, because I only see them when they are working (but I can still enjoy our time!).
Can I date any of my paid helpers?
No, part of their job is they cannot date their clients or students.
Where do I see my paid helpers?
At their job (school, clinic, on field trips, etc.)
What is an UNEXPECTED way to contact my paid helpers?
Text, calling their cell phone, messaging them on social media, visiting them outside of work hours/their workplace
I really like my paid helper. What is a compliment I can give them?
I love you! (affection)
You are cute! (appearance)
You are great at teaching! (action)
You would be my dream boyfriend/girlfriend! (flirting)
What types of touch are expected with my hairdresser?
Cutting my hair, washing my hair, short scalp massage
What types of touch are expected with my OT?
Holding my hand or body to keep me stable, hand-over-hand for tasks, adjusting parts of my body so I do tasks correctly, high five, fist bump
What types of touch are expected with my SLP?
Touching my face and mouth to help me make certain sounds, high five, fist bump, hand-over-hand help for some activities
What is the difference between a paid helper and a community helper?
My paid helper's job is to help me. A community helper's job is to help everyone (bus driver, firefighter, library etc.).
What types of touch are expected with my teacher?
Could include high five, fist bump, elbow bump, short hugs, hand-over-hand help with certain activities (if needed)
If I have a crush on my paid helper, who can I tell?
Crushes on paid helpers might happen! You can tell a trusted friend or family member. You might also want to keep it private.
What are EXPECTED compliments to give to my paid helper?
Compliment their actions (You are good at _____) or their personality (You are ______).
What types of touch are expected with my doctor?
It depends on the type of appointment and type of doctor (brainstorm some ideas!)
Who are my paid helpers?
People whose job it is to help me (my teacher, my therapist, my doctor, my hair dresser, my dentist, etc.)
How do I contact my paid helpers?
Talk to them when they are at work, send an email, call them at their work number if needed