Share Perspective-Taking + Communciation Styles
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Scenario: You are in line for lunch, and someone cuts in front of you. Question: How would someone feel if you said in an assertive voice, “Hey, I was next. Can you please wait your turn?” How might they feel if you said in an aggressive
Assertive: They might understand they made a mistake and feel okay about fixing it. Aggressive: They might feel scared, angry, or embarrassed, and the situatio
Scenario: You're super excited about the new Minecraft movie. At recess, you start telling another kid who also loves Minecraft every detail you know. Question: How might that kid feel when you talk a lot about Minecraft?
They might feel excited and happy because they like the same thing and enjoy the conversation.
Scenario: You tell your teacher all about Five Nights at Freddy’s—including scary plot details—while she’s trying to get the class started. Question: How might your teacher feel in that moment?
She might feel confused, uncomfortable, or distracted because she doesn’t know much about the game or isn’t interested in scary things right then.
Scenario: During a class discussion, a student gives a wrong answer. You say, “Oh yeah, great answer,” with an eye roll. Question: How might that student feel? How would the teacher feel?
The student might feel embarrassed or hurt. The teacher might think you’re being disrespectful or unkind.
Scenario: You’re sitting next to a kid you don’t know in the waiting room. You say, “Hi, do you like Pokémon?” Question: What might this kind of small talk help with?
It might help start a friendly conversation and make both of you feel less nervous or bored.
Scenario: Someone keeps borrowing your colored pencils without asking, but you just let them. Question: How might this communication style (passive) affect you and the other person?
You might feel frustrated or ignored, and the other person might not realize they’re bothering you because you didn’t say anything.
Scenario: Your friend draws a picture and asks what you think. You say, “It looks weird.” Question: How might your friend feel? Is there a kinder way to be honest?
Your friend might feel hurt. A kinder way would be, “It’s creative! Maybe you could add more color.”
Scenario: A kid you don’t know bumps into you at the park, and you shout, “Watch where you’re going, dummy!” Question: How might that kid feel? What might be a better way to handle it?
They might feel scared or upset. A better way would be to say, “Hey, that hurt. Please be careful.”
Scenario: You’re in a group project and someone is doing all the talking. You want to share your idea. Question: How could you speak up assertively?
You could say, “I have an idea I’d like to share too.” This shows confidence without being rude.
Scenario: You’re talking about your favorite video game and notice the other person keeps looking away and not answering. Question: What might they be feeling? What should you do?
They might be bored or not interested. You could ask, “Do you want to keep talking about this or something else?”
Scenario: Your teacher reminds you (again) to write your name on your paper. You say, “Wow, thanks, I never would’ve remembered that,” in a sarcastic tone. Question: How might your teacher feel hearing that? What would be a more respectfu
The teacher might feel disrespected or annoyed. A more respectful response would be, “Oops, thanks for the reminder.”
Scenario: You sit with a new group at lunch and say, “What’s your favorite movie?” Question: How might the other students feel about this kind of communication?
They might feel included, welcomed, and more willing to talk with you.
Scenario: A classmate brings in a homemade lunch and you say, “That looks gross.” Question: How might your words affect your classmate? What’s a kinder way to show curiosity?
They might feel embarrassed or sad. A kinder way would be, “What kind of food is that? I’ve never seen it before.”
Scenario: You don’t like the plan your group made, but you say nothing and just go along with it. Question: How might this affect your feelings and the project?
You might feel frustrated or unheard. The project might miss out on your good ideas.
Scenario: You start talking a lot about Roblox to a classmate during a spelling test. Question: How might your classmate feel? What might the teacher think?
The classmate might feel distracted or annoyed. The teacher might think you’re not being respectful of the test time.
Scenario: Someone keeps taking your turn in a game. Question: How can you respond assertively, and how might that help the situation?
You could say, “I’d like my turn now. We’re all supposed to take turns.” This helps solve the problem without being mean.
