You just told your sister, “You are so gross! Stop eating with your mouth open! You make me want to puke!” You notice that she looks really hurt. So you apologize and say an I-Message instead. What I-Message do you use?
I feel ____ when you ____. Can you _____?
You and your friend made plans to hang out during recess. But when the time came, your friend went off with another classmate. You felt really disappointed and bummed out by this. What I-Message could you use to talk to your friend about
I feel ____ when you ____. Can you _____?
Pretend that your younger sibling won’t stop talking and it’s driving you crazy because you are trying to focus on completing your homework. Instead of telling them, “You’re so annoying! Stop talking!” what I-Message would you use
I feel ____ when you ____. Can you _____?
Your friend just laughed at you in front of the entire class and you felt embarrassed and hurt. You think maybe your friend doesn’t know how their behavior impacted you. What I message would you use.
I feel ____ when you ____. Can you _____?
You’ve noticed your friend roll their eyes at you and then lean over and whisper to another classmate. You are not quite sure what is going on. Use an I message to talk to your friend.
I feel ____ when you ____. Can you _____?
T or F? The following is an example of an I-Message: “I feel frustrated when you take my things out of my room without asking first because then I have a hard time finding my stuff. Could you please ask me first next time?”
True
T or F?“You get on my nerves!” is an example of on I-Message.
False
T or F?“The following is an example of an I-Message: “I think that you’re a liar and a cheater.”
False
“I feel ___ when the teacher calls on me to present in front of the class and I’m not ready or don’t know the answer. I wish I had more time to think about my answer first or write it down instead.
your answer
“When you said you didn’t want to be friends anymore, I felt ___. I really value our friendship and wish we could still hang out.”
your answer
“When you laughed at and made fun of my new haircut, I felt ___. I want to be spoken to kindly.”
your answer
DOUBLE POINTS! Use an I-Message to share how you feel right now, in this very moment.
I feel ____ when ____.
DOUBLE POINTS: Why are I messages more effective than YOU messages?
your answer
