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What is an I-Mesaage
A clear/ concise, respectful way to express an emotion to a situation as well as a need
Name the steps of I-Messages
I feel.. when you... because... I need
The "I Feel" part of I-messages expresses the _______
Emotion
The "When you" part of I-Messages expresses the ______
Situation/ what happened
The "Because" part of I-messages expresses the _______
Why
The "I Need" part of I-Messages expresses the ______
Need
True or False... We use I-Messages to get what we want
False: Expresses a need does not necessarily end in that need getting met, I-Messages are used to express feelings and provides an opportunity to get a need
Provide an I-Message for this situation: My friend told another person a secret of mines
I feel violated, when you tell my secrets to others, because I trust you as my friend, I need you to respect my privacy
Provide an I-Message for this situation: My teacher cancelled our field trip because the class was misbehaving
I Feel sad when you cancel our field trip, because I really wanted to go and I was not the problem, I need you to give us a chance to earn it back
Provide an I-Message for this situation: I got a good grade on my test because I studied
I feel happy, when I get a good grade on my test, because I really studied, I need to study more so I can continue to get good grades
Provide an I-Message for this situation: Your Mother took you to see a movie
I feel happy, when you spend time with me, because I enjoy your company, I need you to continue to spend time with me
Provide an I-Message for this situation: Your parent said you can have a sleep over
I feel excited when you tell me I can have a sleep over, because I love spending time with my friends, I need you to allow me to do this more often
Who can you use I-Messages with
Adults, Friends, classmates, (anyone)
Provide an I-Message for this situation: you woke up in the morning and went to school even though you are not feeling well
I feel irritable when I am not feeling well, because I have less patience/stamina, I need to be allowed to have more breaks or see the nurse if necessary
Provide an I-Message for this situation: You was not called on in class and now you are angry
I feel angry when I am not called on because I like to participate, I need you to call on me more
What can you do if you used your I-Messages and still are experiencing a negative emotion
Use an appropriate coping strategy.
