Scenario: Your friend keeps texting you after you said you need to do homework. Question: What could you say to set a boundary in an assertive way?
You could say, “I want to talk, but I really need to finish my homework first. Can we text later?”
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banana
Go to last place!
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Go to first place!
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shark
Other team loses 10 points!
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lifesaver
Give 25 points!
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Scenario: A classmate brings in a homemade lunch and you say, “That looks gross.” Question: How might your words affect your classmate? What’s a kinder way to show curiosity?
They might feel embarrassed or sad. A kinder way would be, “What kind of food is that? I’ve never seen it before.”
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Scenario: You’re upset someone took a toy you were using. You yell, “Give it back! You’re so mean!” Question: How might the other person feel? What’s a better way to get the toy back?
They might feel attacked and not want to share. A better way: “I was using that toy. Can I please have it back when you're done?”
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Scenario: You're super excited about the new Minecraft movie. At recess, you start telling another kid who also loves Minecraft every detail you know. Question: How might that kid feel when you talk a lot about Minecraft?
They might feel excited and happy because they like the same thing and enjoy the conversation.
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Scenario: During a class discussion, a student gives a wrong answer. You say, “Oh yeah, great answer,” with an eye roll. Question: How might that student feel? How would the teacher feel?
The student might feel embarrassed or hurt. The teacher might think you’re being disrespectful or unkind.
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lifesaver
Give 10 points!
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Win 50 points!
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fairy
Take points!
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Lose 20 points!
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Scenario: You’re at a birthday party and don’t know many people. You turn to someone and say, “Do you like the cake?” Question: How might that make the person feel? Why is small talk helpful in new situations?
They might feel more comfortable and willing to chat. Small talk helps break the ice and build connections.
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Scenario: You start talking a lot about Roblox to a classmate during a spelling test. Question: How might your classmate feel? What might the teacher think?
The classmate might feel distracted or annoyed. The teacher might think you’re not being respectful of the test time.
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Scenario: A kid you don’t know bumps into you at the park, and you shout, “Watch where you’re going, dummy!” Question: How might that kid feel? What might be a better way to handle it?
They might feel scared or upset. A better way would be to say, “Hey, that hurt. Please be careful.”
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Scenario: Someone keeps borrowing your colored pencils without asking, but you just let them. Question: How might this communication style (passive) affect you and the other person?
You might feel frustrated or ignored, and the other person might not realize they’re bothering you because you didn’t say anything.
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Scenario: Your classmate wears a bright orange shirt. You say, “That shirt is so weird.” Question: How might they feel? What’s a more respectful way to give an opinion?
They might feel hurt or embarrassed. A better way would be to say nothing, or say something neutral like, “That’s a really bright color!”
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Scenario: Your friend draws a picture and asks what you think. You say, “It looks weird.” Question: How might your friend feel? Is there a kinder way to be honest?
Your friend might feel hurt. A kinder way would be, “It’s creative! Maybe you could add more color.”
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Scenario: You don’t like the plan your group made, but you say nothing and just go along with it. Question: How might this affect your feelings and the project?
You might feel frustrated or unheard. The project might miss out on your good ideas.
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Scenario: You sit with a new group at lunch and say, “What’s your favorite movie?” Question: How might the other students feel about this kind of communication?
They might feel included, welcomed, and more willing to talk with you.
